Posted tagged ‘stress’

So this is Christmas…

December 16, 2016

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I have been reflecting on the years gone by and how the lead up to Christmas was once hectic.  Over the last handful of years I have deliberately chosen not to rush out and meet up with people, or rush around and attend “Christmas parties”.  This year I notice that there are no invitations to such meetings and I am much more rested.

I am not sure what it is about this time of year that causes people to become harangued and busy.  The people you love are usually available to you all year to spend time with.  The few who travel to see you (or whom you travel to see) are far more interested in connecting face to face than going to events and shows and entertainment.  It may be a good time to rest and just talk.  Get less busy, get more connected.

I have noticed that my work becomes busier in the lead up to Christmas.  Due to this and the previous rushing around, by Christmas Eve I would be so exhausted I had no energy to talk or connect.  This year I am not rushing around but work remains busy.  The holidays bring to the surface conflicts that have been ignored all year.  If you have been ignoring unhealthy relationships, then now is a good time to clear them up.  Make this the last year that you drag unhealthy relationships through the year with you, make the decision to sort out boundaries as soon as you notice they’ve been trashed.  If you can do this then you will be able to enter Christmas much more mentally rested.

Next year I will talk more about minimalism and reducing the amount of stuff you have, because more people have been asking me about this.  If you have a question, please pop it in the comments below.

I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a fabulous start to 2017!

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The year I want to forget…

November 20, 2016

So this year I’ve been mostly absent from cyberspace and social life. It started with losing my very old and absolutely gorgeous white German shepherd girl, Lady Jane. That was just before Easter. She was the definition of loyalty and devotion. I miss my girl.

Then I finally, more than a year AFTER the move date, got the keys to my newly built Celebration Homes house. While much of the house was done well, there were a pile of things needing fixing…so it felt like I was handed over an unfinished house. 

At the same time, my old home was broken into and loads stolen, including my racing bike for triathlon that you see in the picture. The person selling MY BIKE in that picture is Cash Converters, whom I’d sent a photo to and who were meant to check the police stolen log before accepting stolen goods. They clearly do not care about the source of goods, and must have known it was stolen as they paid (according to police) just $200 for it.. note they’re selling it for much more. I recovered the bike but no other goods.

On the same night they returned and stole my car, got in a police chase and smashed it. So, for about 12 weeks I was living with borrowed cars and lifts etc. Not great fun while moving house. 

Naturally all this upset my dogs a great deal too, leaving me with behavioural issues to manage. They were very stressed, which resulted in some damage to the new house (I had to replace a whole door and get professional painters in!).

Moving house is supposed to be very stressful in itself. My move was nightmarish and some matters are still outstanding (like the refund from the moving company TLI transport, who damaged goods and overcharged me). I think it has taken months for me to settle after all this. The dogs have finally stopped barking when someone drives past, so they’re calmer too. 

My mantra has been about self care. I’ve taken long walks, been on very long runs, spent hours sleeping and been very careful about diet. I’ve stopped all extra activities, and only done the essentials outside of home. I’ve not been very social, nor very community minded in terms of volunteering. I have been able to recalibrate. I’m finally out of the mental fog that an overload of cortisol (the stress hormone your brain produces) brings and can think clearly. 

I’m glad that before this year I learned about self care, about rest and about saying “no”. These lessons have helped bring me through this nightmare year. So, I’m ready to embrace the new year, ready to think about what I’d like 2017 to look like. 

Life is like my house renovation…

October 20, 2013

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I love my house, but it is very old. Its quite functional for lifestyle, however from time to time I need to upgrade. Currently, this is the bathroom. Decorated in the delightful ’70s decor of baby pink and baby blue, it has served well…however it is the size of a handkerchief.

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What makes “news” and why should I know?

August 20, 2013
The way we used to find out news, the local market...

The way we used to find out news, the local market…

There appear to be regular elections and other such political nonsense (IMHO), and lately the airwaves have been clogged with news of individuals running for office talking about other individuals running for office. No one has really outlined any clear policies, but the scare-mongering and general misinformation on topics like refugees is annoying. So, my question is: How is it decided that a story makes “news” and who makes the decision? (more…)

how I started creating margins in my life…

September 16, 2012

Recently I posted about the need to create margins in our lives, to be able to live with enough space to move so that when we were pushed we would not fall off the edge. Some have wondered how I planned on doing that??? Well, here is the “how to” guide from me.
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Kony…what does that mean to the poor?

March 9, 2012

Yes, everyone is talking about Joseph Kony. The world again stands horrified at injustice, cruelty and ignorance. So, the video went viral, news bulletins picked up on it, people posted and reposted about it… the power of social media came to the fore as never seen previously.
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can the poor flourish? (living on $500 for a month)…

March 7, 2012

Last time I wrote about the idea of flourishing and wondered about whether it is a concept for those of us in the 1% of the world. Considering the challenge, the question is about how much energy and attention survival takes really. Is there anything left over to flourish with? So, this month I set myself a challenge.
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