Posted tagged ‘self-care’

The year I want to forget…

November 20, 2016

So this year I’ve been mostly absent from cyberspace and social life. It started with losing my very old and absolutely gorgeous white German shepherd girl, Lady Jane. That was just before Easter. She was the definition of loyalty and devotion. I miss my girl.

Then I finally, more than a year AFTER the move date, got the keys to my newly built Celebration Homes house. While much of the house was done well, there were a pile of things needing fixing…so it felt like I was handed over an unfinished house. 

At the same time, my old home was broken into and loads stolen, including my racing bike for triathlon that you see in the picture. The person selling MY BIKE in that picture is Cash Converters, whom I’d sent a photo to and who were meant to check the police stolen log before accepting stolen goods. They clearly do not care about the source of goods, and must have known it was stolen as they paid (according to police) just $200 for it.. note they’re selling it for much more. I recovered the bike but no other goods.

On the same night they returned and stole my car, got in a police chase and smashed it. So, for about 12 weeks I was living with borrowed cars and lifts etc. Not great fun while moving house. 

Naturally all this upset my dogs a great deal too, leaving me with behavioural issues to manage. They were very stressed, which resulted in some damage to the new house (I had to replace a whole door and get professional painters in!).

Moving house is supposed to be very stressful in itself. My move was nightmarish and some matters are still outstanding (like the refund from the moving company TLI transport, who damaged goods and overcharged me). I think it has taken months for me to settle after all this. The dogs have finally stopped barking when someone drives past, so they’re calmer too. 

My mantra has been about self care. I’ve taken long walks, been on very long runs, spent hours sleeping and been very careful about diet. I’ve stopped all extra activities, and only done the essentials outside of home. I’ve not been very social, nor very community minded in terms of volunteering. I have been able to recalibrate. I’m finally out of the mental fog that an overload of cortisol (the stress hormone your brain produces) brings and can think clearly. 

I’m glad that before this year I learned about self care, about rest and about saying “no”. These lessons have helped bring me through this nightmare year. So, I’m ready to embrace the new year, ready to think about what I’d like 2017 to look like. 

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our ideal selves…

May 18, 2014

sunrise

There are days I am my ideal self for whole minutes at a time. What do I mean? Well, we all aspire to be an “ideal self”, which may be that person who pays attention to others, makes soup for the sick neighbour, runs an errand while out to save doubling back, gives to the charity when they appeal, goes for the run at 6am on Monday morning… you get the picture. We all have these ideal selves that we see as who we would like to be.
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on the new cult of productivity…

January 7, 2014

Mont St Michel

As 2013 came to an end and 2014 began, it seemed that everyone was talking about how to be more productive this year. I heard radio interviews, saw news items…productivity came up in my blog feeds and online news… it seems a new cult has come to town. Unlike the previous cult of consumerism, where there are temples to worship at, productivity is a silent devotion.
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how I started creating margins in my life…

September 16, 2012

Recently I posted about the need to create margins in our lives, to be able to live with enough space to move so that when we were pushed we would not fall off the edge. Some have wondered how I planned on doing that??? Well, here is the “how to” guide from me.
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inspiration…

May 22, 2012

I am not sure who created this sculpture, or any of the others at the annual “Sculptures by the Sea” exhibit. However, whoever they are, these sculptors are inspirational! They bring new ideas, thoughts and emotions to us in our everyday contexts. Why should public monies be spent on this? Because we all need inspiration!
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the continual growth cycle…

January 23, 2012

I was talking last week with someone who asked about why life goes from one challenge to another… My pat answer was that without challenge there is no growth. Their reply was to ask why growth was so important anyway??? I had no answer to that. Without change there is only death. A rut is a grave without a stone. I’m sure we are familiar with these and other proverbs that encourage us to keep growing as people.
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the concept of recovery…

January 7, 2012

I have been gone a couple of months (you may have noticed), not because I was travelling or having a grand adventure, but because I was recovering. I went through the loss of a relationship last year, and towards the end of the year I needed some time to be quiet and reflect on life. What I find interesting is the number of people I speak to who do not go through recovering after some loss forced upon them, and are surprised that they are not coping with life at full speed.
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