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So this is Christmas…

December 16, 2016


I have been reflecting on the years gone by and how the lead up to Christmas was once hectic.  Over the last handful of years I have deliberately chosen not to rush out and meet up with people, or rush around and attend “Christmas parties”.  This year I notice that there are no invitations to such meetings and I am much more rested.

I am not sure what it is about this time of year that causes people to become harangued and busy.  The people you love are usually available to you all year to spend time with.  The few who travel to see you (or whom you travel to see) are far more interested in connecting face to face than going to events and shows and entertainment.  It may be a good time to rest and just talk.  Get less busy, get more connected.

I have noticed that my work becomes busier in the lead up to Christmas.  Due to this and the previous rushing around, by Christmas Eve I would be so exhausted I had no energy to talk or connect.  This year I am not rushing around but work remains busy.  The holidays bring to the surface conflicts that have been ignored all year.  If you have been ignoring unhealthy relationships, then now is a good time to clear them up.  Make this the last year that you drag unhealthy relationships through the year with you, make the decision to sort out boundaries as soon as you notice they’ve been trashed.  If you can do this then you will be able to enter Christmas much more mentally rested.

Next year I will talk more about minimalism and reducing the amount of stuff you have, because more people have been asking me about this.  If you have a question, please pop it in the comments below.

I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a fabulous start to 2017!


our separate lives…

May 28, 2014

Musee D'Orange entry

We live in a messy world, where things appear to move in chaotic patterns. Interestingly enough, we humans (or maybe its just me?) seem to want to make things neat an tidy. We like the parts of our world to be nicely separated into boxes. (more…)

the rest on creating margins…

September 25, 2012

So, this is what it looked like after pulling out a really old, non-functioning oil heater…the heater in the picture is a gas addition.

I started writing about margins a few weeks back, and here are the last 3 steps I went through to create some margins in my life…


May 22, 2012

I am not sure who created this sculpture, or any of the others at the annual “Sculptures by the Sea” exhibit. However, whoever they are, these sculptors are inspirational! They bring new ideas, thoughts and emotions to us in our everyday contexts. Why should public monies be spent on this? Because we all need inspiration!

a meaningful life…

January 30, 2012

A new year is underway and everywhere I see busyness… in the midst of that I wondered about how often people lament about the lack of meaning they sense in their lives. Bees live in community, and although you rarely see one sitting about doing nothing (they are always busy), what they create comes from the hive. In reflecting on this, I wrote a short poem.

the concept of recovery…

January 7, 2012

I have been gone a couple of months (you may have noticed), not because I was travelling or having a grand adventure, but because I was recovering. I went through the loss of a relationship last year, and towards the end of the year I needed some time to be quiet and reflect on life. What I find interesting is the number of people I speak to who do not go through recovering after some loss forced upon them, and are surprised that they are not coping with life at full speed.

starting over…

August 24, 2011

Ever felt that you wanted a fresh start? Ever felt that life was overwhelming and your mistakes too many? In my experience, we have all been there. Mistakes, bad choices, unanticipated consequences…these all make us want to start over. Just as when we write in the sand at the sea and the ocean washes it away, we can have a fresh start tomorrow.