Posted tagged ‘good and bad’

Sanitising the muck in your head…

October 25, 2015
The sun is rising over a small island in the Indian Ocean

The sun is rising over a small island in the Indian Ocean

My head is spinning and all weekend I have been trying to quiet it. I noticed a few months back that as work became busier, my head filled up a lot. It is an occupational hazard to dream about others’ problems, and have nightmares about others’ experiences. People bring the ugly side of life to me to leave in a safe place.
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how to live justly???

July 4, 2014

Overloaded mule

I attended a short seminar on the concept of justice in leadership today. It was not well attended, but the information covered was excellent. There are thousands of books on leadership, there are blogs and podcasts, research institutes and journals. I have never heard it said that justice lies at the heart of good leadership before today.
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on the new cult of productivity…

January 7, 2014

Mont St Michel

As 2013 came to an end and 2014 began, it seemed that everyone was talking about how to be more productive this year. I heard radio interviews, saw news items…productivity came up in my blog feeds and online news… it seems a new cult has come to town. Unlike the previous cult of consumerism, where there are temples to worship at, productivity is a silent devotion.
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What makes “news” and why should I know?

August 20, 2013
The way we used to find out news, the local market...

The way we used to find out news, the local market…

There appear to be regular elections and other such political nonsense (IMHO), and lately the airwaves have been clogged with news of individuals running for office talking about other individuals running for office. No one has really outlined any clear policies, but the scare-mongering and general misinformation on topics like refugees is annoying. So, my question is: How is it decided that a story makes “news” and who makes the decision? (more…)

In my life…

August 6, 2013
"All these places have their moments" - The Beatles

“All these places have their moments” – The Beatles

This past year my life has had a number of significant moments, and it occurs to me that each of them happened under stormy, dark clouds. For those that missed is, I completed Ironman 70.3 although I was sick on the day I managed a time of 7 hours 39 minutes, which was not too shabby given the illness. I learned to push through, to put in the training and see how far my body could go. I got a lovely medal too!

Its also been a year of loss. Loss of friendships, loss of loved ones and loss of time. Friendships come and go in our lives, and while each person leaves an indelible mark on us, at some stage they go in a different direction. Learning to let go and let them be is important. Hanging onto them forces us to be anchored in a place that holds us back. If we can’t grow together, we need to learn to let go. Its hard.

The repeated losses of loved ones over the last year left me in a place of feeling a little disconnected. Each death reminded me to live life to the fullest, however processing the losses one after another left me also feeling stunned (as in hit by a bus). I took some time out to process and accept the losses, to say my personal goodbyes and learn to live well amidst them. Too frequently people rush goodbyes and try to keep moving at the same rapid pace of life, this doesn’t allow healing. I encourage you to grieve well and say goodbye in your own way.

You may need a ritual, you may need to plant a new tree, you may need to write in your journal for hours on end, you may need to talk to a psychologist….do what you need to do, take the time you need to heal.

I feel well again. I am surrounded by wonderful people and will enjoy the next season of life. The clouds are receding and the sunshine is coming through… keep tuned in, I will write more!

freedom…

April 19, 2012

OK, so I understand that there are varieties of cultures and beliefs around the world. I live in a multicultural society, surrounded by nations just here in my street. Within 6 houses: Burmese, Malay, English, South African, Indian, Bangladeshi. Yes, let’s encourage culture, let’s celebrate diversity!
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the wash-up of the $500 challenge…what I learned

March 28, 2012

So, within 12 days of starting the challenge to live on $500 for a month it was all over. I have learned a few things and will briefly list them here:
1) As soon as the “budget” was over, I went into spend mode. It felt like a switch in my head had been flipped from having to be so tightly controlled by the financial state, the budget was like a prison I had broken free of. Perhaps this is why we sometimes see those who are poor make terrible decisions about buying a huge new TV or other consumer good that just gets them in more financial difficulty? That overwhelming push to break from the prison is a nasty feeling.
2) Those who live with such narrow boundaries learn to be creative and clever with things. Necessity is the mother of invention and certainly I am amazed and impressed by how well some people manage on so little.
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