Kindness matters…

Posted October 19, 2015 by angelvalerie
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I work in a world of pain, it is a world where sometimes people are hurting because others deliberately hurt them. There are many times this doesn’t make sense, many days I’d like to live in a different kind of world. 

As I go through life, I see hurting people everywhere. I also hear meanness and judgement. I also become cynical because I know some lie, some deceive and some will sell their soul for gold. I get tired of agencies asking for donations, of volunteers asking for support and of generally feeling guilty that I can’t give to it all. I have seen the lazy masquerading as mission workers in third world countries, the greedy spending nothing on loved ones and all on themselves, and the selfish demanding their needs be met without considering the needs of others. Cynicism and I are well acquainted.

Yet, through all this I cling to GRACE. I hang on to kindness and compassion as the guiding lights of my behaviour. For as I look back a dark moments, moments I felt I was drowning in sorrow, it is the kindness of others I recall. The compassion of those who helped me is the food of my soul that balances the cynicism. 

We live in a world where there is cruelty, but I choose kindness as the path I travel. You too have a choice.

On becoming trendy…

Posted September 20, 2015 by angelvalerie
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Suddenly over the last few weeks I’ve noticed people talking about living deliberately, actually using those words: “living deliberately”. I realise that this blog has been going for years and now I’m trendy.

Of course, like all fads, this will pass. People who lived out of a shopping bag will fill homes with children, pets and stuff…People who travelled light will stop and work a 9-5 job…People who refused to eat grain will start buying cereal. Such is life, this is how the world works. Looking back we see the hippies, the beatniks, the nerds…all had their day. 

So, how has this changed anything for me? It hasn’t. I’m still not clogging the newsfeed with every thought I’ve had, I’m still decluttering on an ongoing basis. 

Last week I took some time to visit a tulip festival, playing with my camera, trying to learn new skills. It was fabulous to switch off to work and just focus on colours and wondering around enjoying nature. 

Are you living deliberately? Making decisions for yourself that are meaningful and fit into values? If so, feel proud and enjoy!

Isn’t life glorious… A poem

Posted July 4, 2015 by angelvalerie
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Isn’t life glorious! Isn’t it grand!

Here – take it – hold it tight in your hand;

Squeeze every drop of it into your soul.

Drink of the joy of it, sun-sweet and whole!

Laugh with the love of it, burst into song!

Scatter its richness as you stride along!

We can always start living – it’s never too late!
                                   – Helen Lowrie Marshall

how to live justly???

Posted July 4, 2014 by angelvalerie
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Overloaded mule

I attended a short seminar on the concept of justice in leadership today. It was not well attended, but the information covered was excellent. There are thousands of books on leadership, there are blogs and podcasts, research institutes and journals. I have never heard it said that justice lies at the heart of good leadership before today.
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our separate lives…

Posted May 28, 2014 by angelvalerie
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Musee D'Orange entry

We live in a messy world, where things appear to move in chaotic patterns. Interestingly enough, we humans (or maybe its just me?) seem to want to make things neat an tidy. We like the parts of our world to be nicely separated into boxes. Read the rest of this post »

our ideal selves…

Posted May 18, 2014 by angelvalerie
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sunrise

There are days I am my ideal self for whole minutes at a time. What do I mean? Well, we all aspire to be an “ideal self”, which may be that person who pays attention to others, makes soup for the sick neighbour, runs an errand while out to save doubling back, gives to the charity when they appeal, goes for the run at 6am on Monday morning… you get the picture. We all have these ideal selves that we see as who we would like to be.
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boundaries…

Posted February 24, 2014 by angelvalerie
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Great Wall of China

Great Wall of China

Recently I have had a few conversations about boundaries…how we make them, how we keep them and how we react when they are violated. It’s never easy trying to figure out where your boundaries are, some things seem straight forward (e.g. I do or do not want people to shake my hand when we greet). Then there are other things that are more difficult (e.g. just how long and how loud do I allow the neighbour’s music to get before complaining when it is intrusive?).
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