the concept of recovery…

I have been gone a couple of months (you may have noticed), not because I was travelling or having a grand adventure, but because I was recovering. I went through the loss of a relationship last year, and towards the end of the year I needed some time to be quiet and reflect on life. What I find interesting is the number of people I speak to who do not go through recovering after some loss forced upon them, and are surprised that they are not coping with life at full speed.

What is it about our society that tells people they should just keep going full steam ahead? Why is it not OK to stop, grieve, reflect and recover when tragedy has struck? It seems that as a whole we expect people to go on as if nothing had happened, as if loss of relationships (of any sort – partners, friendships, family members) are simply a mere bump in the road, rather than a heartbreaking experience. We need to learn to stop.

Taking time to recover means stopping the busyness and slowing down. It means asking questions about the why and how, being able to allow doubt to cause you to re-evaluate your values and beliefs, and coming to a place that you are able to accept and be at peace with the loss. You simply cannot do this when you are going at a hundred miles an hour, it must be done in a place of rest and peace.

If you have never taken some time out to recover, then I suggest you may need to do it now. I know its the beginning of the year and there are goals to achieve and all that. I also know that in order to live your best life, you need to reconcile the losses of yesteryear. Whether they be recent or some time ago, perhaps now is a good time for you to recover before heading into 2012 all guns blazing? Stop, consider, recover.

I am ready for a new year with new challenges, I am at peace with the world. What about you?

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