The season is changing, although it has not been as predictable as we like to think. The colder weather seems to have invited itself to stay awhile, and like all house guests that overstay their welcome, we are well ready to see the end of it. We are not consulted.
Which makes me think about life, often our lives go through seasons of change, times of transition and mostly we are not consulted. Seldom do people consult us when an action will change a relationship, or when a new purchase will change our value system. Transition is something we need to manage, to adapt to, to get used to…and somehow we need to keep who we are through it all.
Of course, often I don’t realise there is a change until its almost done! I may be a little slow to pick up on things that way. Why am I surprised when I realise change has come? Why do I not notice that a relationship is changing until the space between us has grown? How come its only when I am ordering something off the menu that my mother says I don’t eat that I realise that somewhere I started eating it? I think it is in managing these changes that we lose ourselves sometimes. I think a successful transition is learning to accept the changes and stay who we are, keep our sense of self and our values.
How do you manage to keep who you are in a clear way during times of transition?