Posts filed under 'The power of reflection'
living authentically with your values (Part 1)
I would like to honour the women of our world who are mothers, and who have made choices about their lives that reflect their values. Whether you stay at home in unpaid work or go out to paid work, you are living authentically by your values. Well done!
Continue Reading Add comment October 30, 2009
the new religion
Consumerism is the new religion. People are not stopping to think about the sales pitch, the empty promises or the glitzy ads. They are simply buying straight into the idea that more is good and they need more of more.
Continue Reading Add comment August 20, 2009
self-assessment and learning to grow
I find that often we can rush through life without taking the time to reflect, and this leads to habits forming in the way we respond.
Continue Reading Add comment July 22, 2009
life in the fast lane
I am starting to think that I live in that fast lane and the seasons are the quiet, restful times that I nudge over to the emergency stopping lane for a while.
Continue Reading Add comment May 14, 2009
on loving and losing
We never know when the ones we love may be taken from us, so let us love well while we have them here.
Continue Reading Add comment April 1, 2009
what is the simple life?
I seriously am thinking about letting my place fully furnished and living on the floor for a while. What do you think? How long would I cope? Would it be good for me?
Continue Reading Add comment March 18, 2009
reframing my life
Out of the stream of life that I usually swim in, as I was paddling around the pond of life in Nannup in a creative and festive environment, I had time to think about my choices and values.
Continue Reading Add comment March 3, 2009
Towards being me
Funny how we can become trapped in behaviours and responses by others because of how we used to be. If you have family or friends who have not been around for a while, and you spend some time, you find yourself falling into old patterns of behaving, old responses to issues. And then suddenly you wonder, have I changed? Have I grown?
Continue Reading 2 comments January 7, 2009
Surprised by time
Thank God for Christmas, not just because of Jesus Christ, but because it has given me the wake-up call to stop,think and then choose to grow! Embrace LIFE!
Continue Reading Add comment December 10, 2008
More on changing relationships
As I read some of the comments, I got to thinking about how often we are guilty of not allowing someone else to change. I mean, it is one thing to feel hard done by when others don’t seem to understand that we are no longer who we used to be, but a new, improved version of ourselves. But, its another thing entirely when a friend makes some changes and that forces us to be different around them. How uncomfortable that can be for us!
Some of the most common times are when a friend enters a new relationship, gets married, becomes a parent, or changes careers. These are such milestone times in our lives and we seek to celebrate them, but sometimes they also mean the other person has moved into a world where their perspective is no longer the same as ours. And this leaves us feeling cheated in some way, we want to drag them back and force them back into seeing things from our perspective.
People often ask how I have managed to keep friendships, true friendships that are deep and lifelong for many years (some over 20 years now). My answer is simple, I always want the best for my friends. I decided a long time ago to give them the grace they needed to change, and to accomodate that change whenever I could. Sometimes that has meant some distance from them, sometimes it has meant greater closeness. Always it has meant that the friendship had to cease being about what I needed from it.
Somehow, being the kind of friend that allows growth, change and mistakes has brought into my life the world’s most amazing friends. I adore my friends, all of them! I am so incredibly blessed to know them, to be able to share their journeys, to have experienced their love and generosity.
Perhaps you too need some of these friends? Perhaps its time for you to become such a friend.
Add comment November 30, 2008
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